I am not sure where I heard the story that babies’ souls choose their parents - as if heaven had a catalog of lives you can lead on earth. Throughout this journey of infertility this thought in some ways has comforted me after failed cycles. Maybe the right soul hasn’t picked us out of the ‘catalog’ yet, or maybe it just isn’t time for the soul to be on earth. Tom and I have high hopes and dreams for what makes our unborn – preconceived child happy. Most of us have been told that God knows what life and fate has in store for us and I believe that this is also true for people not yet on earth. Possibly in the bigger picture it doesn’t matter that I am closer to 30 then I was when we started trying to conceive, perhaps what is more important is how old our child(ren) at a particular time in the world. Maybe it isn’t about the experience or what we as the hopeful one day parents learn from our journey, it could already be about the child we long for. Even though people may say that we did not conceive our children naturally because we need not only each other’s love, but also God, prayers, needles and a doctor to help us I still believe it is miraculous that a soul can come from heaven into our arms no matter when that will be.
Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all of your heart. ~ Marcus Aurelius
7 years ago
